Q: "I seem to have this stumbling block
whether I'm meeting a woman for the first time or out on a
date with her. Somehow I always find the wrong things to say.
Things that sound stupid, are too personal or should just
have been plain obvious that I should not have said them!
I can't seem to see these potholes of casual talk when I'm
with a girl. Is there a list of things I should probably avoid
when I'm talking to girls on a casual date?"
A: "There are certain issues that you should
definitely avoid before you get close to a girl (read: start
dating regularly). This doesn't just apply for when
you first meet a girl and start talking to her, but also when
you're out on a date with her. There are a few things
that you really should not say and do.
Avoid talking to girls or women about your personal problems.
Whether it's about family, work or money. She's out to have
a good time, not to listen to your sob story and to be your
counselor.
Whenever you're meeting women for dates,
try as much as possible NOT to act desperate. It is a huge
turn off for women.
Try to keep the conversation
as upbeat and positive as possible so the girl
you are talking to will retain more good memories of talking
to you rather than bad ones.
A rather obvious thing to not to is to not get drunk. It is unattractive and unimpressive and you never know what you're going to say under the influence of alcohol.
If she's talking to you about her problems,
don't try to analyze too much of it and ‘fix' it for her.
Women just like to talk, they don't like it when
men tell them what they did wrong and how to fix it.
Never ever decide to start talking
to girls about your ex girl friend or wife . If
the subject comes up, just be polite about it. The worse
thing you could do is to start bitching to them about how
horrible they were and how you were tortured.
When you're meeting women for the first
time, talking about yourself and your accomplishments is
a subject that will naturally come up during the course
of your conversation. Gloss over what you've done and let
her know more if she's interested. The important thing that
you must not do is to brag about yourself. Know where the
line is between impressing a woman and turning her off with
your bragging.
And lastly you want to avoid talking
to girls about politics, religion and conspiracy theories
especially if you're not that familiar with her yet. Everything
else is definitely open for discussion and they will be
a helluva lot more fun and less likely to blow up that these
3 themes.
